I have been dealing with this situation for a while with my teacher and just about everything is resolved but I still have some questions. I had been on here before asking about my teacher that I had last year, I struggled in his class, and in total, he ended up teaching/tutoring me for about 2-3 hours a day. My mother was uneasy at this point because of him being 25 and I 16, but because his help was very helpful to me, she allowed me to continue seeing him. Afterwords we would talk and have conversations unrelated to school. At the end of the year, which was his last year teaching (he now went into private tutoring), when he found out I had a small business, he was impressed and checked out my business’s web page. Via the web page, he got my email address and emailed over the summer a few times just about my business.
However, when when he asked if he could come to one of my soccer games (I dont play for my school), my mom then forbid me to give him any info about it and prefers that I dont email him any more. She doesnt have a good feeling about him, and she keeps telling me "trust me on this one". I trust her very much, and agree with her, however I struggle with one thing: I dont want to be rude to him. I am fine with not giving him info on my soccer game whereabouts (though, really, I would like him to come), but because I had agreed to it previously, he is still asking. I see him around school every now and then, his mother works at my school as the assistant principle, and he subs for some other teachers, so he asks me then. I continue to reply with "i dont know"s, but I dont want to keep this up. He seems sincere about coming, and its not even like I can lie about it either because one of my teammates also goes to my school and is friends with this teacher, and it is only a matter of time before they speak and he finds out the false info I gave him and he realizes I am lying to him. I need to find a way to either tell him as it is, or get out of it some way or another. Im not sure just being up front will pan out, just because, knowing him, he may try to patch things up with my mother and truthfully, my mom seems to hate him already…I dont really want them speaking! Nor do I really want him to know, or even bring up the situation that my mom doesnt trust him around me. I would feel embarassed about it, and who knows what would go from there.
But again, I cant be rude about this because, despite everything, I still consider him a friend and respect him as an adult. It would be like being rude or lying to a friend who really hasnt done anything to wrong you yet.
Do you have any suggestions as to how I can deal with this situation? I already asked my mom the same question, and she really hasnt been much of a help! =) Please keep in mind that this isnt about agreeing or disagreeing, or listening to my mom…I already agree with her and trust her… I just want to know how to finish dealing with this situation!
*There is one person out there somewhere that caught me in a lie the last time I asked a question here, I have to admit to this. I asked a similar question to this, but I wrote from my mother’s point of view. He caught on. I realize I shouldnt have done this, now. I was simply embarassed about the situation and I didnt really want to reveal my age either. I appologize to that person, because he was right. I should have just been up front.
Thank you for any help you can give me.
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